These are some of my favorite articles, books, and media.  It is by no means exhaustive.  If you are looking for a specific resource, please feel free to contact me.  I am frequently updating and adding to the resources. 

General Resources

Internal Family Systems (IFS)

IFS Parenting Series with Derek Scott Dr. Richard Schwartz: Internal Family Systems (53:00 minutes) -13:00 minutes explaining IFS -30 minute demo of the model -10 review of the demo The Power of Self to Heal Parts (18:57 minute video) with Richard Schwartz and Soren Gordhamer

General Parenting

Fixed vs. Growth: The Two Basic Mindsets That Shape Our Lives, by Maria Popova How to Be a Strength-Based Parent, by Lea Waters, Greater Good Magazine (10/2/2018) The Science of Emotional Regulation Knowing Neuroscience Can Make You a Better Parent, by Philip Perry, Big Think (9/2017) What is Mindful Parenting, by Jon Kabat-Zinn, Ph.D (12/7/2014) What Your Teen (Who Won't Talk to You) Really Needs You to Know, by Kimberly Hiss, Readers' Digest 8 Alternatives to Raising Your Voice with Your Child, by Lexi Walters Wright Videos for Caregivers About Effective Mental Health Care (Society of Clinical and Adolescent Psychology) excellent resource for parents of children ages 3-20 whose children struggle with learning and/or attention issues.

Books for Parents

Beyond Behaviors: Using Brain Science and Compassion to Understand and Solve Children's Behavioral Challenges, by Mona Delahooke

Technology/Screentime Resources

Screentips from National Online Safety ​​ When Should You Come Between a Teenager and Their Phone, Child Mind Institute, by JoJo Marshall


The Impact of Trauma (blog post) Understanding and Working with the Window of Tolerance, Lori Gill RP, MACP (11/25/2017)

Gender Identity Books & Media


The Queer & Transgender Resilience Workbook: Skills for Navigating Sexual Orientation & Gender Expression, by Anneliese Singh, PhD (2018) You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery, by Dara Hoffman-Fox (2017) Letters for My Brothers, by Megan Rohrer and Zander Keig (collection of essays) (2010) Transgender 101: A Simple Guide to a Complex Issue by Nicholas Teich (2012) To My Trans Sisters, by Charlie Craggs (2017) Super Late Bloomer: My Early Days in Transition, by Julia Kaye (2018) Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Trans Community by Laura Erickson-Schrot (2014) Gender Queer: A Memoir, by Maia Kobabe (2019)

Parents & Caregivers

The Transgender Teen: A Handbook for Parents and Professionals Supporting Transgender and Non-Binary Teens by Stephanie Brill and Lisa Kenney (2016) - comprehensive guidebook Transgender 101: A Simple Guide to a Complex Issue by Nicholas Teich (2012) The Transgender Child: A Handbook for Families and Professionals by Stephanie Brill and Lisa Kenney (2008) - comprehensive guidebook Gender Born, Gender Made: Raising Healthy Gender Non-Conforming Children by Diane Ehrensaft, Ph.D (2011) Helping Your Transgender Teen: A Guide for Parents by Irwin Krieger (2011) Raising my Rainbow: Adventures in Raising a Fabulous Gender Creative Son by Lori Duron (2013) Transitions of the Heart: Stories of Love, Struggle and Acceptance by Mothers of Transgender and Gender Variant Children, edited by Rachel Pepper (2012) This is How it Always Is by Laurie Frankel (2018) Fictional story of a family navigating the experience of parenting a transgender child.


Be Who You Are, by Todd Parr: encourages and emphasizes the beauty of our differences Who are You? The Kid's Guide to Gender Identity by Brook Pessin-Whedbee: A straightforward introduction to gender for ages 3+. I am Jazz, by Jazz Jennings and Jessica Herthel: easy storybook explaining what it means to be transgender. Pink is for Boys by Robb Pearlman: shows diverse gender expression and reminds kids there are not "boy" and "girl" things or colors. 10,000 Dresses by Marcus Ewart: Introducing Teddy: A Gentle Story About Gender and Friendship, by Jessica Walton: Positive representation of talking about transgender individuals and the importance of loving and accepting them when they tell us their truth. Jacob's New Dress by Sarah Hoffman: The story of the unique challenges faced by boys who do not identify with traditional gender roles. Red: A Crayon's Story by Michael Hall: Colorful picture book about finding the courage to be true to your inner self. Neither by Airlie Anderson: Explores gender and helps kids understand that it is not always binary. Jillian is a Mermaid by Jessica Love: A celebration of individuality and self-love. Sparkle Boy by Leslea Newman: A story of acceptance and the freedom to express gender. From the Stars in the Sky to the Fish in the Sea by Kai Cheng Tom: A story exploring gender, identity, and acceptance of differences.

Middle School

George by Alex Gino: A fictional story of a transgender girl and her desire to play the part of Charlotte in a school performance of Charlotte's Web Gracefully Grayson by Ami Polonsky: The fictional story of an introverted sixth grade transgender girl.

High School

Being Jazz: My Life as a (Transgender) Teen, by Jazz Jennings: Memoir by trailblazer and advocate, Jazz Jennings about what it is like to be a transgender teen. The Art of Being Normal by Lisa Williamson: The fictional story of a transgender boy who enters a new school and how he navigates friendships and relationships. Beautiful Music for Ugly Children by Kirstin Cronn-Mills: The fictional story of a transgender girl who becomes an underground hit as a radio DJ--but is challenged when outed by a girl at school. If I Was Your Girl by Meredith Russo: A fictional story of a transgender girl who reconnects with her estranged father and falls in love for the first time. Some Assembly Required by Arin Andrews: A true story of a 17-year-old transgender male and his transition. Parrotfish by Ellen Wittlinger: Fictional account of two transgender teens and their school experiences. Symptoms of Being Human by Jeff Garvin: Fictional story of a gender fluid teenager working through gender identity issues Beyond Magenta: Transgender Teens Speak Out (2015) Interviews with transgender and gender non-conforming young adults


Gender Revolution: A Journey with Katie Couric National Geographic (available on Netflix/Amazon) The Trans List (2016) HBO Documentary Growing up Trans PBS Frontline (June 30, 2015)

Gender Identity


Understanding Gender Understanding Transgender Identities, 8/6/20, Morning Show Interview Gender Identity Development, American Academy of Pediatrics Mental Health of Transgender Kids Who Are Supported in Their Identities, Olson KR, Durwood L, DeMeules M, et al. Mental Health of Transgender Children Who Are Supported in Their Identities. Pediatrics. 2016;137(3):e20153223 How to Use Gender-Neutral Words, by Danielle Corcione, Teen Vogue (8/27/18) How to Talk to Transgender Youth, according to experts and their parents, NBC News, by Julie Compton (12/31/18) Is it Just a Phase, What to Do When Transgender Youths Ask to Transition, by Bianca Palmisano, Psychiatry Advisor (8/30/18) Stopping transphobia before it starts, (4/26/18), article with links to educational video developed by Gender Creative Kids Canada, Ways to Support Name & Pronoun Change Jamey Hampton blog post Where Neurodiversity Meets Gender Diversity (11/19/20) Different Brains video, Interview with Dr. Alexis Bitting

Local Parent Support Groups

Essex/Cape Ann (1st Tuesday of the month 7:00pm) First Universalist Church of Essex, 57 Main Street, Essex Contact: Melanie at Greater Boston PFLAG, Andover Parent Support Group, (2nd Tuesday of month, 7-9pm) Contact Deb at for details Seacoast Outright, Parents of LGBTQ+ Support Group, (1st Friday of the month in Portsmouth, NH), 7:15 to 8:45 pm, further information e-mail Christine at Parent Groups

Local Youth Groups

McVAGLY (Merrimack Valley Alliance of Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Youth), welcomes youth ages 13-23. Check Facebook for updates: Meetings are Mondays, 6:30-8:30 pm at North Parish Unitarian Universalist, 190 Academy Road NAGLY (North Shore Alliance of Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Youth), a welcoming group for youth ages 14–23, meets every Tuesday. They also have a middle school group which meets every other Monday, and TRANS-cendence (ages 13-23) meets every other Wednesday. There are parent and educator groups as well. Location: Museum Place Mall, 2 East India Square, Suite #121, Salem MA 01970. Contact: Steve Harrington,, 978.224.2102 Seacoast Outright , LGBTQ+ Youth Group, Fridays (21 & under in Portsmouth, NH) 7-9pm Trevor Space, is a free, monitored social and networking site for LGBT youth

Websites on Understanding Gender

Gender Spectrum Family Acceptance Project PFLAG


The Science of Being Transgender, (12/13/18) by Science VS

Transgender-Friendly Health Care Resources

American Academy of Pediatrics Policy Statement: Ensuring Comprehensive Care and Support for Transgender and Gender-Diverse Children and Adolescents, (issued September 2018) Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center: Transgender Medicine, Director, Dr. Michael Irwig, MD, Contact: 617-667-9344, 330 Brookline Ave, Boston Boston Medical Center: Child and Adolescent Transgender Center for Health (CATCH), 617-414-4841 Fenway Health, transgender health program information: Contact (857-313-6589): GeMS (Gender Management Service) at Children’s Hospital: 617-355-4367 Greater Lawrence Family Health Center, Family medicine practice providing care to transgender children and adults (Internal Medicine, Pediatrics, Primary Care) Director Ciaran DellaFera, MD; 978-686-0090, 34 Haverhill St., Lawrence, MA 01841 MGH Department of Medicine, Transgender Health Program (launched 10/2018). The clinic, located on the hospital’s main campus, is overseen by Robert Goldstein, MD, PhD. The program will work with colleagues from across the hospital to provide multidisciplinary care for the transgender community. Contact: | 617-643-7210 | Sidney Borum Junior Health Center, a division of Fenway Health for youth ages 12-29; primary care, transition management, therapy; questions and appointments: 617-457-8140; WPATH Standards of Care: Flexible standards for transition-related mental and physical healthcare for trans people. Getting Your Healthcare Covered: A Guide for Transgender People

Massachusetts Organizations

Mass Transgender Political Coalition (MassTPC) Educates the public, advocates with state, local, and federal governments, engages in activism, and encourages empowerment of community members through collective action.

Online Support/Communities

Q-Chat Space: A Community for LGBTQ+ Teens, provides support, connection around shared interests, and overseen by trained facilitators AANE Resources for Autistic LGBTQIA+ Adults

LGBTQ+-Friendly Crisis Resources

TRANS LIFELINE: (877) 565-8860

Education/School Resources

Safe Schools Program, Massachusetts Department of Education (DOE) laws and regulations: Safe Schools Program Team Email: Phone: 781-338-6319 HRC Welcoming Schools: comprehensive list of books related to gender broken down by school-age GLSEN (Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network) Organization for students, parents, and teachers that tries to affect positive change in schools.

Summer Camps

Camp Aranu'tiq New campers ages 8-13, family camp, building confidence, resilience, and community for transgender & gender-variant youth and their families through camp experiences. List of Inclusive Summer Camps

Adult Support Groups

Trans Club of New England, Boston area transgender support organization COMPASS: social groups for individuals assigned female at birth, who do not see female as an accurate or complete description of their gender. Boston Area Trans Support, support for trans and non-binary adults 18+ BAGLY Online Programming: Boston area program for individuals to age 25. COLAGE: Support for individuals with one or more LGBTQ+ care givers Autistic and Trans: Gender Identity Support Group: Third Tuesday of each month, 7:00-9:00pm (via Zoom). This group is for adults who are on (or near) the autism spectrum, who identify as transgender and/or non-binary (or who are questioning their gender). No autism diagnosis or certainty about gender is required; this is a safe place to explore intersecting identities in a supportive setting. FREE. Please e-mail to inquire about attending.


Books for Parents

Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents: 7 Ways to Stop the Worry Cycle and Raise Courageous and Independent Children, by Reed Wilson and Lynn Lyons (2013). Provides families with a jargon-free, step-by-step plan to solve the puzzle of anxious, avoidant kids.

Books for Kids

I Can Handle It, by Laurie Wright Please Explain Anxiety to Me!: Simple Biology and Solutions for Children & Parents, by Laurie Zelinger When You are Brave, by Pat Zietlow Miller

Media and Podcasts

Flusterclux with Lynn Lyons: authentic and compassionate straight talk to parents to connect, reflect and feel more prepared to support their family's mental health.

ADHD & Executive Function

Books for Parents

Driven to Distraction, Edward Hallowell What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew: Working Together to Empower Kids for Success, by Sharon Saline Taking Charge of ADHD, The Complete Authoritative Guide for Parents, by Russell Barkley Superparenting for ADD: An Innovative Approach to Raising Your Distracted Child, by Edward Hallowell

Books for Kids

The Lightning Thief, (Book 1), Percy Jackson (Age 9-12) Cory's Stories, A Kid's Book About Living with ADHD, by Jeanne Krauss (ages 5-9) I Can't Sit Still! Living with ADHD, by Pam Pollack and Meg Belviso (ages 5-9) Why Can't Jimmy Sit Still? by Sandra Tunis (ages 4-8) The Survival Guide for Kids with ADHD, by John Taylor What Were You Thinking? Learning to Control Your Impulses, by Bryan Smith Your Fantastic Elastic Brain: Stretch It, Shape It, by JoAnn Deak

Books for High School & College Students

Learning Outside The Lines: Two Ivy League Students with Learning Disabilities and ADHD Give You Tools for Academic Success and Educational Revolution, by Jonathan Mooney and David Cole

Podcasts and Media

Parenting ADHD Podcast: Weekly parenting insights, strategies and resources for parents raising kids with LD, ADHD and/or autism Learning to Work With Not Against ADHD (McLean On-Demand Webinar)




Asperger/Autism Network (AANE): Provides individuals, families and professionals with information, education, community, support and advocacy--including support groups.